Oh man, I've got a million horror stories like this.
KASE: Some hotshot in a Defiant immediately goes after the transformers on the left while the rest of the team, minus the guy who is working probe duty on the left, heads right. Apparently Defiant Boy took out both sets of the generators on the left without dealing with the cubes, then flew across the map to the right to join us in our assault. Probe defender on the left gets repeatedly owned by the resulting horde of spheres and the two cubes and rage-drops. Unchecked probes pour through the time gate. We lose.
Infected Space Elite: I landed in this one with the German fleet. Started off good other than the glaring problem that none of them apparently spoke English. Then we got to the nanite generators. Before I could even ask "10?" they were already aggroing the generators, leaving the cubes and causing hordes of nanite probes to show up with their sphere escorts. Inexplicably, the fleet then assaulted the warp gate without first trying to take out the transformers or any of the Borg. When I finally had to log off they were still dying endlessly in space, not making a dent in the gate.
Very very rarely will I ever ragequit an STF. I have done so on two occasions, both were Infected Space Elite.
The first time, I got grouped with a couple of hotshots who thought they knew everything they were doing. They wouldn't listen to my suggestions. It's not like I was barking orders at them either. I was being very polite in suggesting how to win the event.
But no. One starts destroying a generator one one side, and another one starts gunning the OTHER side.
Within a couple minutes, there are two cubes spawned and all 8 generators down. Nanites are approaching both sides, and the optional is lost.
Here I am facepalming behind the keyboard. I decide to just hit Emergency Power to Engines and Evasive Maneuvers and hightail it out of there. I fly behind the planet and watch the chaos unfold as the idiots start bickering to themselves of how they screwed up. They start barking orders at everyone to start killing this specific target... both of them on two different targets. I just laughed and warped out.
The 2nd time was just the other day when I got paired with a few players from the Vienna fleet. Obviously they showed no signs that they could understand English and started destroying the generator right away while the rest of us were going for the 10% strategy.
The nanites start coming, the optional is lost, and I just decide to log out.
These all sound so familiar. One thing that really helped me was the more experienced players that gave good directions. Of course, you must be willing to pay attention. A little study on wiki and the forums helps too.
Give directions and advice; some of us do pay heed. I manage to learn something new everyday thanks to others.
My worst... TISE
I decided running TISE with my new Bortasqu' Command Cruiser (full very MkXI or MxXII with full disruptor )
At the starting, as usually. No one answer my "Hi". I'm use about.
We started fine except me. I got aggro with spheres (It was due of my specs). By chance another klingon helped me. We went on the left side. We started shot the nodes. A badass tactical federation went on my node and he blew up it. Someone said "noob"! I asked who is the noob. Someone said "you!" I said I'm not noob. It's this badass tactical fed. He shoot my node". What he answered. I was too slow. For 8 minutes 2 bad vets and this f**king tactical fed sottped playing game to argue why I'm noob and why I'm wrong. The last player, a klingon said I can't help you and he left the STF. So then we lost optionnals and everyone left the STF.
My worst experience so far was realizing that I screwed up an Elite STF because I didn't understand the mechanics correctly yet. I have no excuses, but if I - someone trying to be pretty well-informed about the game - have this problem, it's no surprise it happens so often.
What I don't get is why, if you're closest to the probes when they come out of a gate in KA, do you then zoom away to fight, say, a cube that spawned without telling anyone the side is undefended? Losing the optional because of no communication is probably my only gripe about PuGs, as I know in general what I agreed to by PuG'ing.