You never mention if there are more players on one team than the other. Was that the case? I'm going to simply guess you are talking about an even match and you are simply flying around expecting your team to follow you. Or others doing that same thing. Here is a tip if you find yourself outnumbered:
Fly with your team. Stop going Rambo and expecting to win against the odds. Stop flying off to pick off a single Fed ship because odds are it's bait. Stay-with-your-team. I absolutely hate when my own team does this, flying off chasing something and I cannot support them with heals or CC. They just die 50+ km away because they behave like drooling dogs who chase any rabbit that crosses their path.