Ideally, every single costume option should be available for all toons, irrespective of gender. To genderise any clothing options is contrary to Gene Roddenberry's vision for humanity in the enlightened Star Trek universe. No discrimination based on outward appearance. Infinite diversity in infinite combinations.
I'm so profoundly saddened and disappointed that any Star Trek fan would discriminate and would even go so far as to label a man in a skirt as "perverted".
Hopefully, gender restrictions will be removed at the same time as the forthcoming removal of uniform/off-duty restrictions.
From what you said and what I know of your post history through passing glance, I think it's fair to say you're younger than 17 and possibly home-schooled.
Rest assured, when you get out into the world, you'll see; women are the stronger gender.
Trust me. You'll get used to it. And eventually like it. I know I do. <.<