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Lt. Commander
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UPDATE -

MISSION OBJECTIVE ACHIEVED, SITUATION NORMAL; STAND DOWN

PLAYER'S NAME REDACTED



I'm loathe to ask a gaming community for assistance but I may have no choice.

One of my RP contacts introduced me to someone in Arizona who seems to be in some sort of distress and partially disabled.

I got to know her better over the past two weeks and realized she is being kept under virtual house arrest by an abusive husband. Her health is getting worse and worse due to a brain haemorrage (sp?) but apparently she is being denied access to medical services. She has since lost her hearing and lost the ability to walk, only to have her husband lock away her wheelchair outside the house.

So all she does these days is literally, play STO 24/7. Please understand she has no way to contact anyone by phone, no friends or family who knows where she is or her current condition. Internet is her only lifeline but she does not know how to seek help.

There is a lot of other grisly details I do not want to share publicly but this lady is in dire need of legal aid and charitable assistance because she can't earn her own keep in this condition, neither can she continue living in such a state.

If you have any information that you can assist please write here. I am really saddened and appalled that a person could be treated and enslaved in such a fashion but I also can't help her because I don't live in the States and don't know who can be of help.

She lives in Phoenix, Arizona and her handle is ///NAME REDACTED///

If you have any contacts for legal aid and social services PLEASE direct them to her. If you live in Phoenix or AZ please let her know you're close by. At this stage, every little bit helps!

Over the past few days she is in despair and although our small RP group tries to cheer her up... there's only so much we can do to make her smile. She needs real help.

So here I am.. I don't write this for me. Please help Melissa.

Cos I don't know what to do for her...
Lt. Commander
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# 2
02-27-2012, 09:42 AM
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Her health is getting worse and worse due to a brain haemorrage (sp?) but apparently she is being denied access to medical services.
if this is the case, call the cops for her. its illegal to deny someone with a life threatening injury access to medical services under any circumstances. they will escort her to the hospital and ensure he doesn't interfere
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# 3
02-27-2012, 09:48 AM
being in another country he may not know the right numbers to call.
in this case I would have to direct him to this: http://www.findcounseling.com/help/h...s/arizona.html
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# 4
02-27-2012, 10:20 AM
Thank you.

We are now submitting joint reports to the Arizona DES - Adult Protective Services

https://www.azdes.gov/daas/aps/
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# 5
02-27-2012, 10:27 AM
do you know where she lives exactly? like which street and town she lives in? that would definely help in getting her faster help, hopefully.
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# 6
02-27-2012, 01:30 PM
I just want to toss this out there, because I was in a similar position a few years back. Someone I had met via online gaming had claimed a fairly similar situation, disabled, injured and in general distress and immediate danger.

We attempted to intervene and offer financial assistance. It turned out to be untrue..

I'm not saying you should refuse to assist her, I'm just suggesting you follow the above advice and seek the aid of Law Enforcement, rather than sending money, or offering to pay for legal services on her behalf.

I wish you, your guild, and the individual in distress the very best of luck navigating this situation. I'll say a prayer on her behalf.
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# 7
02-27-2012, 01:49 PM
Just so you don't get in trouble with your good intentions, you need to remove the person's handle from your post and direct solutions to you (or this thread) instead.

You are violating the person's privacy and potentially making the situation worse for her. If the situation is truly as you described and she is caught by her husband because of a sudden flood of communication, it is likely to end badly, especially if you are about to get law enforcement involved.
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# 8
02-27-2012, 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by carmenara
Thank you.

We are now submitting joint reports to the Arizona DES - Adult Protective Services

https://www.azdes.gov/daas/aps/
Good luck, and your a good fleet mate / friend to do this.

the Adult Protective Services does help. I had to call them for a friend of mine ( different community ) because her husband thought it was a good idea to kick her laptop screen and destroy her desk top to cut off communications. they were able to help her, so I know they will help your friend.
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# 9
02-27-2012, 02:10 PM
Police website for Phoenix, AZ with online reporting: http://phoenix.gov/police/

Advise her contact the police herself. Then put her on your ignore list. Seriously. Worrying about what happens to her won't do anyone any good. If the situation is really as bad as she describes, then they'll do something about it. If she doesn't think the situation is bad enough to contact the police, then it probably really isn't and she's exaggerating.
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# 10
02-27-2012, 02:15 PM
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Originally Posted by hort_wort View Post
Police website for Phoenix, AZ with online reporting: http://phoenix.gov/police/

Advise her contact the police herself. Then put her on your ignore list. Seriously. Worrying about what happens to her won't do anyone any good. If the situation is really as bad as she describes, then they'll do something about it. If she doesn't think the situation is bad enough to contact the police, then it probably really isn't and she's exaggerating.
Speaking as a friend of a recently battered wife... that's not always the case. Battered spouses are usually emotionally and physically subdued, and thus unable to contact or reach out to authorities. Also, she made mention of speech impairment. Communicating her need for assistance over the phone would be difficult.
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