I had the same problem occur yesterday as well. Crashed to desktop from a fleet mission and then nothing, the patcher says trying to connect in the little box in the top left corner and it finally fails. Tried resetting my connection, even left the modem off all night and all day today, still nothing.
I cant get the downloader from the website to work either so I can re-download. All I get is an error saying something about a bad image. Any suggestions?