Good luck in your search. If you enjoy a little RP, please check out the Vulcan based fleet (See attached quote below). I am a new cadet (not an officer or anything) but everyone I've met so far in the VKF is helpful and friendly.
PS: You are very lucky that you and your wife enjoy gaming together. I wish I could get my girlfriend to play any game online with me. She has never even seen one episode of any of the Star Trek series so I am probably out of luck unless they make an MMO based on "Monk" or something.
Originally Posted by KeySailor
Good Launch Day to you. I am Zhel-lan Keysailor, Fleet Executive Officer of the VKF. You may find our Fleet a good fit, provided you can RP with cold logic, insightful analysis, and superior intellect as we Vulcans do.
We are worldwide, have both casual and hardcore members, have vent, and have each others' well-being as a common goal. I personally have been a fan of the ST genre for decades.
Our Fleet is formed in-game, and we have competed several PvE missions with small groups - I find it very satisfying to work with logical, analytical Vulcans, and we do have other races in the VKF - they are...fascinating.
Live Long and Prosper, and know that the VKF will answer all Federation hails.